Minimize Your Holiday Stress

Oh yes, the holidays are merry and jolly and so much fun! Everyone knows that! The question is why is it that couples fight MORE during this happy and joyous time than probably at any other time during the year? When you take a step back and actually look at everything that goes on during the holiday season, it?s a lot easier to understand the reason for all the bickering. The good news is that once you can see the reasons for things, it?s easier to find resolutions to them. It also makes it easier to cut down on the all holiday fighting.
There are so many extra activities going on in the days before Christmas that it?s hard to keep up with them all. Between work and school, parties, and shopping, you and your partner may have to almost pencil in time together. That time together is often strained and less than ?quality? because both of you are simply too tired to do anything other than have dinner and sleep.
Another thing that couples argue over is where they?ll be spending the holidays. This is especially problematic when both sides of the family are expecting you to be at their houses for the big event. If you can?t agree on a compromise between the two of you, fireworks will ensue.
Gifts can actually be a subject of great debate when couples cannot decide on spending limits. One partner may want to be thrifty so that the after holiday debt isn?t staggering. The other partner may feel that Christmas only comes once a year and that spending limits shouldn?t be set.
There are certainly other issues that crop up between couples during the holidays but these are some of the biggest. Happily, there are resolutions to them all as long as both of you are willing to work together. It?s not the time of year to be selfish and everyone should understand the meaning of compromising and working together.
First of all, if you?ve got too many things going on at once, cut down on some of the parties and other social gatherings that you?ve been invited to. There will always be some that you can?t say no to for various reasons, but even for those, you can make an appearance and stay a decent amount of time without staying until the bitter end. If you work it right, you may even be able to take care of more than one of these events during the same evening.
As for where you?ll spend the holidays, be fair. If you spent them with one family last year, then the other family gets priority this year. In the event that you?re really lucky and both families live locally to you, then you can simply split up the day and spend part of it with each family. The only way any of this works, though, is if you?re both willing to cooperate with each other and form a plan that?s fair and sensible.
Gift shopping isn?t easy, particularly in these current economically challenged times. The two of you need to sit down and decide on a workable spending limit and stick to it. If your budget is REALLY small this year, there are other gifts to give that are meaningful without being expensive.
Work together and your holiday season will truly be joyous and happy.

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