Pattern Dating

Some women seem to be drawn to all the wrong men when it comes to dating and relationships. They can?t seem to help themselves, and this is pretty sad because until they break their negative patterns in dating, they?ll never have a truly successful relationship. Instead, they?ll continue to date one wrong man after another.
So what do you do about that if you happen to fall into this category? First of all, you must identify the types of guys that you?ve been falling victim to and figure out why they?re all so wrong for you. For instance, if you?re drawn to the bad boy type, it may be due to a part of you that loves to rebel against things. You may also subconsciously want to be mistreated in some way. There may also be a part of you that wants to ?help? or ?change? these guys into loving and respectful men. While that?s very sweet of you, there?s something that you should be aware of. That something is that these guys are never going to change and see things your way. They like being the way they are and will not change for anyone. Therefore, the person that needs to change is you.
If you find the negative pattern of dating that you seem to keep following, you can start changing it into something useful and a way to find happiness. Another negative dating pattern that many women cave into is that of using sex to find their Prince Charming. These women don?t just kiss on a first date; they have sex on a first date. In fact, for a lot of them, they don?t even need to be on a date. They just allow themselves to be picked up at bars and taken to the back seats of cars or alleys. For some reason, they seem to feel that by having sex with a guy, any guy, that they?ll find true love. Sadly, but not unsurprisingly, this really doesn?t happen. What does tend to happen are unwanted pregnancies and STDs.
To start breaking through your negative dating pattern, no matter what it is, then the first thing you need to do is figure out why the kind of guy you?re attracted to always turn out to be bad news for you. When you?re able to get that part settled in your head, then you can set about figuring out the type of men that will be good for you. Look closely at what you need from a partner long term. Then start trying to meet men that fit the criteria.
Even if you have to force yourself, stay away from those former guys that have always been so bad for you. Understand that if you?re ever going to be happy, you must extricate yourself from the negative dating patterns that you?ve enmeshed yourself in, no matter what they may be. It?s not impossible to get it all worked out. If you can?t do it on your own, then you may want to get some professional help with it in the form of a counselor.

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